What’s Love Got to Do With it…?
Strange title for a self-improvement blog post?
LOVE is probably one of the most important factors involved in improving oneself and so often it is overlooked by the gurus, who typically emphasize the need for:
- SETTING GOALS FOR YOURSELF.
- ELIMINATING BAD HABITS
- EVALUATE WHAT ISN’T WORKING
- ETC
What is not discussed enough is the importance of a person understanding and relishing in the Love of Self. Social engineers have done a great job downgrading the reality of Personal Greatness and the Power from Within, which was granted to every human at Birth.
I have always felt blessed being taught at a very early age by my parents, relatives, and teachers that I was born into the Image and Likeness of Greatness. And my ‘job’ in life is to expand on that greatness through living a life of integrity, activity and action applied to self-directed goals.
Love of Self (a.k.a. self-love) sounds great, but what does it actually mean? How do we love ourselves and why does it matter? Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing. When you own love of self, you have an overall positive view of yourself. This doesn’t mean you feel positive about yourself all the time. We all have the time and place to be critical of decisions and action. The secret is in being forgiving to yourself when you mess up.
You cannot give that which you do not OWN. Love and Forgiveness must be owned by you in order to share with it with others.
I believe it is basic human nature to want to GIVE and in order to GIVE we must have the Gifts in our possession. So, my simple mindset says Love is the Greatest Gift and therefore we must have Love to GIVE. Don’t allow social engineers to tamp down that LOVE of Self that can grow daily. How can you assure that growth?
- Believe you were Born in the Image and Likeness of Greatness.
- Set personal goals to improve your God Given talents.
- And give thanks daily for the opportunity to accomplish those Goals.
- Saying positive things to yourself
- Forgiving yourself when you mess up
- Meeting your own needs
- Being assertive
- Not letting others take advantage of or abuse you.
- Prioritizing your health and wellbeing
I am always reminded of a poem I heard many years ago. The Guy In The Glass. by Dale Wimbrow in 1934. I recorded it years ago and re-listen often. Helps keep the mindset in focus. Feel free to download.
The Guy In The Glass
One more thing about LOVE. That LOVE we share with others NEVER DIES. I am experiencing that daily since the passing of my wife, soul mate and best friend in 2023.
Be sure to LOVE Yourself and Share that LOVE with others.
Please share your thoughts and experiences below
Love this and completely agree. Thank you for the reminder!!
I really appreciate your input, Juanyta
Please share link with others.
Chuck
I liked your emphasis on Love, real love, not fake love; self-giving love, not self-taking love. And being born into the “image and likeness of Greatness” (the Primal Mover, known far and wide as God).
I also liked very much the poem “The guy in the glass” by Dale Wimbrow. It has a timeless quality to it, a reminder that goodness and success begins within oneself, not something we buy in a store or dream about. It reminded me of I John 4:8: “Whoever does not love (all others) does not know God for God is love.” Love is surely a gift to be shared, a gift that never runs out.
Love is more than a belief; it’s like a seed planted into everyone’s heart, but it must be recognized and cultivated before it can grow into real soul food for oneself and all others.
Thank you so very much for that comment…
I am reading your new book, and I am positive it will be well received.
I will look forward getting back to you very SOON.
Chuck
I think love is very much about forgiveness too. Great read and your style is very easy to read.
Good point. It is important to also remember to FORGIVE ourselves. ~~smile
Thank you for your comment and compliment
Live this! Relatable and so true!
I really appreciate your input.
Thank you, Sheena
Thank you for sharing! Love and forgiveness aren’t always easy, but they are so important. I also write about it in my free e-book 7 Keys To Self-Healing, A Trauma Surivivor’s Guide. Thanks for spreading love. The world is never enough of it.
Thank you for the comment and sharing your E-book.
Great information on the life we should be living . Most people get stuck in the servant mode as in being like ( Jesus) who was sent to be the servant to Gods children . However we overlook that when becoming a servant first we can neglect to take care of the servant, whom without no others can be served.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for your cogent response, Sam
Self-Love is the most important key factors, in our life.
When we operate from self-love it gives us PASSION, DESIRE, COMFORT, PEACE, HARMONY, JOY, HAPPINESS just to name a few. And all of those give is MOMENTUM to live our everyday life. Like filling up our gas tank with PREMIUM gas.
I do believe we all have been miss led and mis guided from our emotional self. What do I mean by this? I mean we have been taught operate from FEAR, DOUBT, INSECURITY as our BASE LINE EMOTIONAL SELF, first, which actually depletes us, takes our momentum away. That is why I am an Inspirational Happiness Coach, to redirect us to start operating from our loving self as our BASE LINE, our GOTO place to start our day. Check out my website for my life story, and for any coaching services http://www.cynthiatoet.com
let’s get your life back on track, to be operating from your higher vibrational life story.
See you soon.
Til then, take care. Love yourself FIRST.
I really appreciate the time and energy you shared commenting on this post.
I hope my readers will get to know you, Cynthia, and the inspiration you share.
Powerful Post, much needed in these present days. Your actions have encouraged me to become more and become better. You see, I have been in a deep, deep depression for three months. As I choose to pick myself up, dust myself off, and begin again I am focusing on a piece I started last year on Love. When it’s ready we will take action in spreading the Love across social media. The Man in the Mirror story is powerful and your voice is strong and soothing, perfect for audio. I’m so glad you have chosen to follow the best path for your life at present. Feel blessed in each moment Chuck!
Thank you for your enlightening comment, Terrific Tonya.
I am sorry to heat of your depression. BUT you are exhibiting your TRU SELF with the affirmation:
“As I choose to pick myself up, dust myself off, and begin again I am focusing on a piece I started last year on Love.“
Looking forward to sharing more!
Your friend
Chuck
Chuck Bartok this is beautiful and a powerful reminder. At my first Tony Robbins Date with Destiny even in 1994, my biggest breakthrough was about self-love. I had believed that my parents didn’t love me. But in an emotional flood visualization I realized, they HAD loved me all along… and I let that feeling in. Then I realized that I was the one allowing (or not allowing) feelings of love toward myself.
After that I continued to consciously flex those feelings of self love… almost daily over 2 years. It was one of the most significant daily rituals I’ve ever done. Lots changed as a result.
I appreciate your post here, and the article as yesterday was one of those self-judgy days, and was an emotional mess. Parenting can test us in incomprehensible ways.
Mary, Thank you so much much for sharing your experience.
I pray others will be inspired to learn to LOVE a fabulous possession.
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